I don’t remember much, but when I do, I never forget. There are some jobseekers I remember because they leave a lasting impression, like one woman I had in my Behavioral Interviewing workshop whose story about motivating others was so compelling. Melissa is her name.
Then there’s Mark who just got an Administrator position in healthcare. He thanked me for my help and told me he’d write an account of his job search and how LinkedIn was of great help.
Lisa landed a benefits job in human resources. Previously she was a manager, but she wanted out of that. She proved that stepping down is fine, just as long as you can still prove your value.
Armando I remember because he would always ping me with updates about his job search. He was always positive, never seemingly desperate, and sometimes he offered to help me. He still remains one of my favorite former customers, still someone I’ll reach out to. The other day, in fact, I called to see if he needed a gift in the form of a very talented jobseeker.
Kelly just landed a marketing job at a bank after being out of work for approximately a year. When she spoke with me just before securing her job, she admitted to being discouraged; but she never showed this. In fact it was just the opposite–she was positive and very active on LinkedIn.
Unfortunately there have been people who are a complete downer, but they’re far and in between. Still I remember them because of the poor impression they made. Mike Downer would constantly e-mail me about how he wasn’t going to make it. I would tell him he would if he networked and tried to be positive. He finally got a job. I won’t hear from him unless he needs another job.
The five people* I mention–yes they exist–who came across as positive and/or were willing to provide any help they could are the ones I would go out of my way to help; whereas the one that was always negative is someone I’d dread hearing from.
There’s a pattern here. People want to go out of their way to help those who make a good impression. If you want to be memorable to people who can assist you in your job search, keep in mind the following:
- Appearing positive, regardless of your internal struggles, attracts more people than if you’re negative. Negativity drives people away. Take Mike Downer, for example.
- Remind people of you by pinging them with e-mails and phone calls, but don’t annoy them with constant contact. Offer to meet them for coffee if it’s convenient for them.
- Always follow up after you’ve met someone who might be of assistance. Every time you follow up ask if you can be of assistance to them. If you can reciprocate in any way, it’s better than only asking for their help.
- Know your stories. Expert on storytelling, Katharine Hansen @ A storied Career, touts the importance of stories, how memorable they are in life and in the job search.
- Let people know about your successes. Had a great interview? Let people know. Finished a résumé you’re happy with? Let people know. Although your confidence may be low, announcing your achievements will make you and others feel great.
These are just a few positive things you can do to become memorable. Don’t be a downer, regardless of your internal struggles. Most people understand that being out of work is painful, including yours truly; so don’t make it the gist of your relationship with others. People like this are easy for me to remember, even if I can’t remember big name actors like Chris….See, I forgot.
*I will occasionally update this list of people and their examples of positiveness.
Thanks for the reminder, Bob! It’s time I circled back and thanked the people who have helped me thus far.
Terrific advice, Bob! I especially like the “stay positive” note. I would say that my students who have been memorable in a bad way are those who were highly negative and took the role of “victim of circumstance” all the time. Your advice is good for everyone in any circumstance, whether they are job seeking or not.
Thanks, Rebecca. Sometimes it’s all perception. We tend to want to help the ones who are positive and willing to give in return, not the ones who are capable but give negative vibes.
Bob, that’s great. A thanks will go a long way.
Brilliant, Bob. Every communication could be a “Connected Conversation” that benefits both people. The person standing next to you in line at the grocery store could be the gatekeeper of your next fabulous opportunity. Everything we do is sending a message. This was a great one!
Thanks, Bill. You are absolutely right about everyone being a possible opportunity. That’s why perception is key. Thanks.
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An outstanding share! I’ve just forwarded this onto a coworker who had been conducting a little homework on this. And he in fact bought me dinner because I stumbled upon it for him… lol. So allow me to reword this…. Thanks for the meal!! But yeah, thanks for spending time to discuss this topic here on your blog.
Thanks for the kind comments and congratulations on the dinner. It is important to be positive in the job search, as well as at work.
As always a great article Bob with sound advice. I think it’s also good to be prepared to experiment with new approaches to promotion and see what results they bring. An example might be creating a Social Resume (which i wrote about earlier today) which is something quite new in the UK.
Or using a Prezi CV (Prezume) which again is new to those in the UK and got the response from one recruitment agency “it wouldn’t fit into our database but as an addition to your CV would make you memorable!”
Paul, I’m interested in seeing your Prezume. Can you send the link or is it public?
Morning Bob happy to share it – I added it to my CV website at http://www.paulduxbury.me and I liked it that much I even bought it a website which is at http://www.prezcv.co.uk
Hope that helps?